{"id":4433,"date":"2021-08-23T17:40:49","date_gmt":"2021-08-23T15:40:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/?p=4433"},"modified":"2021-12-18T13:23:44","modified_gmt":"2021-12-18T12:23:44","slug":"ako-byt-dobrymi-prarodicmi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/2021\/08\/23\/ako-byt-dobrymi-prarodicmi\/","title":{"rendered":"AKO BY\u0164 DOBR\u00ddMI PRARODI\u010cMI"},"content":{"rendered":"

Odovzd\u00e1vanie l\u00e1sky a pozornosti, ktor\u00e9 m\u00f4\u017eu prarodi\u010dia d\u00e1va\u0165 svojim vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1m, nemus\u00ed by\u0165 komplikovan\u00e9. Dok\u00e1\u017eu si vysta\u010di\u0165 s m\u00e1lom, a predsa s\u00fa t\u00fdmi najlep\u0161\u00edmi dedkom a babi\u010dkou na svete.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n

Jedno die\u0165a to vyjadrilo takto: \u201eBabi\u010dky nemusia robi\u0165 ni\u010d in\u00e9 LEN TU BY\u0164.\u201c Toto die\u0165a vystihlo podstatu prarodi\u010dovstva. Mnoh\u00ed prarodi\u010dia musia robi\u0165 ove\u013ea, ove\u013ea viac, av\u0161ak prarodi\u010dovstvo v z\u00e1sade znamen\u00e1 robi\u0165 to, na \u010do ostatn\u00ed – str\u00fd\u010dkovia, tety, priatelia, a dokonca ani rodi\u010dia – \u010dasto nemaj\u00fa \u010das, jednoducho, <\/span><\/span>LEN BY\u0164 S DE\u0164MI<\/b><\/span><\/span>.<\/span><\/span>
Ak \u017eijete vo v\u00e4\u010d\u0161ej vzdialenosti od vn\u00fa\u010dat, nepanik\u00e1rte. To, \u010do sa sna\u017e\u00edm poveda\u0165, by malo v\u0161etk\u00fdch prarodi\u010dov upokoji\u0165, preto\u017ee BY\u0164 S NIMI sa net\u00fdka iba zemepisu. U det\u00ed sk\u00f4r funguje (aj u ka\u017ed\u00e9ho dospel\u00e9ho, aj ke\u010f si to neprip\u00fa\u0161\u0165a) vedomie, \u017ee <\/span><\/span>ak existuje niekto, kto od nich v\u00f4bec ni\u010d nevy\u017eaduje<\/b><\/span><\/span> \u2013 ani v\u00fdsledky v \u0161kole, ani v\u00fdhru v atletick\u00fdch pretekoch… –<\/span><\/span>, tak to je ich najv\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00edm bohatstvom<\/b><\/span><\/span>. Znamen\u00e1 to ma\u0165 niekoho, kto ich pr\u00edle\u017eitostne bude rozmazn\u00e1va\u0165 (nepravideln\u00e9 pozornosti ich len \u0165a\u017eko pokazia), s k\u00fdm sa bud\u00fa m\u00f4c\u0165 rozpr\u00e1va\u0165 a on bude uchv\u00e1ten\u00fd ka\u017ed\u00fdm ich slovom \u010di gestom. Znamen\u00e1 to vedie\u0165, \u017ee vo svete, ktor\u00fd ich alebo aj v\u00e1s m\u00f4\u017ee ohrozova\u0165, pomeriava\u0165, hodnoti\u0165, s\u00fadi\u0165 a vy\u017eadova\u0165 \u010fal\u0161\u00ed trik, aj ke\u010f u\u017e je z\u00e1zra\u010dn\u00fd kufr\u00edk celkom pr\u00e1zdny, <\/span><\/span>je niekto, kto ich miluje.<\/b><\/span><\/span> DETI S\u00da \u0160\u0164ASTN\u00c9, KE\u010e IM VENUJETE SVOJ \u010cAS!<\/b><\/span><\/span>
Ke\u010f si to jeden prarodi\u010d uvedomil, povedal: \u201eBola to obrovsk\u00e1 \u00fa\u013eava. Ja nie som pr\u00e1ve \u0161portov\u00fd typ, nem\u00e1me ve\u013ea pe\u0148az\u00ed, m\u00e1me mal\u00fd dom a \u00faprimne hovor\u00edm, \u017ee som sa ob\u00e1val, \u017ee budem ve\u013emi nudn\u00fdm dedkom. A potom mi do\u0161lo, \u017ee deti nezauj\u00edma, \u010di ste dos\u0165 \u00b4IN\u00b4, deti s\u00fa \u0161\u0165astn\u00e9, ke\u010f im venujete \u010das, aj keby ste sa spolo\u010dne venovali len mali\u010dkostiam.\u201c M\u00e1 pravdu. M\u00f4\u017eete ich zasv\u00e4ti\u0165 do svojho kon\u00ed\u010dka. Ve\u013ea vn\u00fa\u010dat v dospelom veku miluje z\u00e1hradk\u00e1r\u010denie, preto\u017ee \u201epom\u00e1hali dedkovi na z\u00e1hrade\u201c. Je \u00faplne jedno, \u010di ide o model\u00e1rstvo, pletenie, pozorovanie vlakov \u010di origami, zaanga\u017eovanie vn\u00fa\u010dat do v\u00e1\u0161ho kon\u00ed\u010dka m\u00e1 t\u00fa v\u00fdhodu, \u017ee na rozdiel od pozerania nejak\u00fdch filmov, si to obidvaja u\u017e\u00edvate.<\/span>
A taktie\u017e ich m\u00f4\u017eete uvies\u0165 do \u017eivota mimo domov. Prarodi\u010d m\u00f4\u017ee niekedy fungova\u0165 ako rovnov\u00e1ha k nezdrav\u00e9mu \u017eivotu, do ktor\u00e9ho deti upadli bez toho, aby si to rodi\u010dia v\u00f4bec uvedomili, alebo aby s t\u00fdm mali \u010das nie\u010do urobi\u0165. Ned\u00e1vny prieskum zistil, \u017ee deti s\u00fa \u010dasto z\u00e1visl\u00e9 od obrazoviek \u2013 tr\u00e1via \u010das pred mobilom, telev\u00edzorom a po\u010d\u00edta\u010dom. Pom\u00f4c\u0165 de\u0165om objavi\u0165 vonkaj\u0161\u00ed svet \u2013 napr\u00edklad nau\u010di\u0165 ich pozn\u00e1va\u0165 kvety, hmyz alebo vt\u00e1kov, \u010di star\u0161ie orientova\u0165 sa map\u00e1ch a pod. \u2013 m\u00f4\u017ee otvori\u0165 detsk\u00fa myse\u013e nov\u00e9mu sp\u00f4sobu tr\u00e1venia \u010dasu.<\/span>
M\u00f4\u017eete si taktie\u017e spolo\u010dne \u010d\u00edta\u0165 rozpr\u00e1vky \u010di in\u00e9 knihy, piec\u0165 kol\u00e1\u010de a vari\u0165, alebo im dovoli\u0165, aby v\u00e1m pomohli s be\u017en\u00fdmi povinnos\u0165ami doma \u010di na z\u00e1hradke. Nech u\u017e zvol\u00edte ak\u00fako\u013evek \u010dinnos\u0165, sna\u017ete sa zvo\u013eni\u0165 tempo a nechajte seba aj vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1 celkom sa pohlti\u0165 danou \u010dinnos\u0165ou – venujte sa jej naplno. Toto \u201ena\u0165ahovanie \u010dasu\u201c d\u00e1va mlad\u00fdm \u013eu\u010fom pocit, \u017ee \u017eivot s nami nie je upon\u00e1h\u013ean\u00fd, \u017ee maj\u00fa pr\u00edle\u017eitos\u0165 a \u010das vyjadri\u0165 svoje pocity, rozpr\u00e1va\u0165 sa, a \u017ee s\u00fa v\u00fdnimo\u010dn\u00ed.<\/span>
Sna\u017ete sa vy\u0161etri\u0165 \u010das\u0165 tohto vz\u00e1cneho \u010dasu na ka\u017ed\u00e9 svoje vn\u00fa\u010da zvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165. Nie v\u017edy sa to d\u00e1, av\u0161ak str\u00e1vi\u0165 s nimi \u010das individu\u00e1lne v\u00e1m umo\u017en\u00ed sa k nim pribl\u00ed\u017ei\u0165 a prekona\u0165 v nich s\u00fa\u0165a\u017eivos\u0165, ku ktorej medzi de\u0165mi nevyhnutne doch\u00e1dza, a vytvori\u0165 si tak s nimi pevn\u00e9 put\u00e1. A je jedno, \u010di ide o \u010d\u00edtanie rozpr\u00e1vok trojro\u010dn\u00fdm de\u0165om, alebo n\u00e1v\u0161tevy ZOO s osemro\u010dn\u00fdmi, \u010di o z\u00e1zrak najv\u00e4\u010d\u0161\u00ed – o -n\u00e1s\u0165ro\u010dn\u00fdch t\u00edned\u017eerov, ktor\u00ed odmietaj\u00fa s k\u00fdmko\u013evek dospel\u00fdm hovori\u0165 a len \u010dakaj\u00fa, k\u00fdm si bud\u00fa m\u00f4c\u0165 vylia\u0165 srdce babi\u010dke alebo dedkovi, ktor\u00ed maj\u00fa \u010das si ich bez n\u00e1mietok \u010di v\u00fd\u010ditiek vypo\u010du\u0165… Pozn\u00e1m v\u0161ak aj tak\u00fdch prarodi\u010dov, ktor\u00ed n\u00fatia vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1 k n\u00e1v\u0161tev\u00e1m. Tak\u00ed prarodi\u010dia m\u00f4\u017eu dosiahnu\u0165 svoje, je v\u0161ak ove\u013ea lep\u0161ie, ke\u010f za vami vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1 chc\u00fa naozaj pr\u00eds\u0165 sam\u00e9…<\/span>
Aj medzi prarodi\u010dmi v\u0161ak existuj\u00fa v\u0161etky druhy: ambici\u00f3zni a oby\u010dajn\u00ed, \u0161irok\u00ed a chud\u00ed, starostliv\u00ed aj bl\u00e1zniv\u00ed. V skuto\u010dnosti na tom vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1m v\u00f4bec nez\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed, preto\u017ee moc prarodi\u010dov je v nie\u010dom inom. Mo\u017eno, \u017ee aj oni s\u00fa ve\u013emi zanepr\u00e1zdnen\u00ed, av\u0161ak d\u00e1vaj\u00fa vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1m pocit, \u017ee s\u00fa pre nich t\u00ed najd\u00f4le\u017eitej\u0161\u00ed \u013eudia na celom svete. Jedna \u017eena mi povedala: \u201ePri mojej babi\u010dke som mala v\u017edy pocit, \u017ee cel\u00fd de\u0148 \u010dakala len na m\u0148a, a ten de\u0148 bol hne\u010f \u00faplne dokonal\u00fd.\u201c Osemro\u010dn\u00e9 die\u0165a na ot\u00e1zku, \u010do je na jej babi\u010dke najlep\u0161ie, odpovedalo: \u201eKe\u010f idem s babi\u010dkou na prech\u00e1dzku, tak sa nikdy nepon\u00e1h\u013ea a m\u00e1 \u010das na zbieranie listov a pozorovanie h\u00fasen\u00edc… Nikdy nepovie: Pon\u00e1h\u013eaj sa…\u201c<\/span>
Smejte sa s de\u0165mi. Vy u\u017e nie ste za ne \u00faplne zodpovedn\u00ed, tak sa nemus\u00edte tv\u00e1ri\u0165 tak pr\u00edli\u0161 v\u00e1\u017ene, ako ste sa o to sna\u017eili pri vlastn\u00fdch de\u0165och. Hrajte sa s nimi, hrajte r\u00f4zne hry a nechajte ich sem-tam vyhra\u0165. Robte to, \u010do ich bav\u00ed, aj to, \u010do bav\u00ed v\u00e1s, hlavne to robte spolu. Prarodi\u010dia s\u00fa jedin\u00ed dospel\u00ed, ktor\u00ed maj\u00fa \u010das a m\u00f4\u017eu svojim vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1m d\u00e1va\u0165 poc\u00edti\u0165 ich d\u00f4stojnos\u0165 vo viere, \u017ee na nich z\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed.<\/span>
V ich rozpr\u00e1vaniach maj\u00fa \u0161ancu o\u017ei\u0165 situ\u00e1cie, z\u00e1\u017eitky a poznatky, ktor\u00e9 pre\u017e\u00edvali oni sami vo vzdialen\u00fdch dob\u00e1ch svojej mladosti. Deti tomuto rozpr\u00e1vaniu rady na\u010d\u00favaj\u00fa, samozrejme, ak ich prarodi\u010dia naozaj ber\u00fa v\u00e1\u017ene, a to aj v ich z\u00e1ujmoch a z\u00e1\u013eub\u00e1ch!
S\u00fa\u010dasn\u00fd svet zahlten\u00fd inform\u00e1ciami by sa \u010doskoro stal nepreh\u013eadnou d\u017eung\u013eou, keby nebolo tzv. nov\u00fdch technol\u00f3gi\u00ed. Pr\u00e1ve na\u0161a gener\u00e1cia seniorov m\u00e1 ve\u013ek\u00fa \u0161ancu vyu\u017ei\u0165 prirodzen\u00e9 vlastnosti det\u00ed a mlad\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed. Ke\u010f ich popros\u00edte, aby v\u00e1s nau\u010dili zaobch\u00e1dza\u0165 s mobilom, sp\u00fdtate sa, ako funguje po\u010d\u00edta\u010d, \u010do v\u0161etko sa d\u00e1 n\u00e1js\u0165 na internete a ako posiela\u0165 elektronick\u00fa po\u0161tu, ur\u010dite ich pote\u0161\u00ed, \u017ee m\u00f4\u017eu prarodi\u010dov aj pou\u010di\u0165 a oby\u010dajne za\u010dn\u00fa ochotne komunikova\u0165. A odtia\u013e u\u017e je len krok k tomu, aby sme ich mohli navigova\u0165 (nie mentorova\u0165) k hodnotn\u00fdm t\u00e9mam poznania, a aj sami zistili, \u017ee sme e\u0161te du\u0161evne mlad\u00ed a dok\u00e1\u017eeme technick\u00e9 vymo\u017eenosti zvl\u00e1da\u0165 ako pom\u00f4cku pri odovzd\u00e1van\u00ed dobr\u00fdch posolstiev. Z tak\u00fdch stretnut\u00ed potom odch\u00e1dzaj\u00fa obe strany obohaten\u00e9. A h\u013eadan\u00edm spolo\u010dnej re\u010di s potomkami m\u00f4\u017eeme prispie\u0165 k ich spr\u00e1vnej \u017eivotnej vo\u013ebe.<\/span><\/span> <\/span><\/span><\/span>
(R. Parsons a A. Havlicov\u00e1)<\/span><\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Odovzd\u00e1vanie l\u00e1sky a pozornosti, ktor\u00e9 m\u00f4\u017eu prarodi\u010dia d\u00e1va\u0165 svojim vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1m, nemus\u00ed by\u0165 komplikovan\u00e9. Dok\u00e1\u017eu si vysta\u010di\u0165 s m\u00e1lom, a predsa s\u00fa t\u00fdmi najlep\u0161\u00edmi dedkom a babi\u010dkou na svete.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11,146,4,157],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4433"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4433"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4433\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4716,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4433\/revisions\/4716"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4433"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4433"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4433"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}