{"id":1896,"date":"2015-08-19T16:56:15","date_gmt":"2015-08-19T14:56:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/2015\/08\/19\/aku-mam-vlastne-cenu\/"},"modified":"2018-05-17T22:09:38","modified_gmt":"2018-05-17T20:09:38","slug":"aku-mam-vlastne-cenu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/2015\/08\/19\/aku-mam-vlastne-cenu\/","title":{"rendered":"AK\u00da M\u00c1M VLASTNE CENU?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"text\">Neistota, strach pred druh\u00fdmi a pocit bezmocnosti vo\u010di svetu s\u00fa dnes najroz\u0161\u00edrenej\u0161ie probl\u00e9my \u013eud\u00ed vo v\u0161etk\u00fdch vekov\u00fdch skupin\u00e1ch. D\u00e1 sa z\u00edska\u0165 moc nad touto bezmocnos\u0165ou? Pon\u00fakame v\u00e1m nieko\u013eko my\u0161lienok, ako budova\u0165 vlastn\u00fa hodnotu a ako kon\u0161trukt\u00edvne zaobch\u00e1dza\u0165 s pocitmi bezmocnosti.<\/span><br \/>\n<!--more--><br \/>\n\u013dudia, ktor\u00fdch ako duchovn\u00fd pastier stret\u00e1vam, \u010dasto kr\u00fa\u017eia okolo dvoch p\u00f3lov: jedn\u00fdm je ch\u00fdbaj\u00faci pocit vlastnej hodnoty a druh\u00fdm je pocit bezmocnosti. Nedostatkom sebad\u00f4very a t\u00fa\u017ebou po poznan\u00ed vlastnej ceny netrpia len mlad\u00ed \u013eudia. Aj od \u013eud\u00ed, stojacich uprostred \u017eivotnej cesty, \u010dasto po\u010d\u00favam, ak\u00e9 je pre nich bolestn\u00e9, \u017ee im ch\u00fdba pocit vlastnej hodnoty \u2013 v\u00f4bec si ned\u00f4veruj\u00fa. Myslia si, \u017ee druh\u00ed \u201eto vedia lep\u0161ie&#8220;. B\u00fdvaj\u00fa to matky, ktor\u00fdm pr\u00e1ve odi\u0161li deti z domova \u2013 jedn\u00e9ho d\u0148a spozoruj\u00fa, ako sa r\u00faca ich sebad\u00f4vera, ktor\u00fa s takou n\u00e1mahou budovali. Definovali sa v z\u00e1vislosti od svojich det\u00ed a teraz s\u00fa konfrontovan\u00e9 samy so sebou, a preto maj\u00fa pocit, \u017ee samy osebe nie s\u00fa ni\u010d\u00edm&#8230; No \u010dasto aj star\u0161\u00ed \u013eudia hovoria o tom, \u017ee maj\u00fa o sebe len celkom nepatrn\u00fa mienku. V starobe toti\u017e prive\u013emi spom\u00ednaj\u00fa na to, \u017ee ich ako deti nebrali v\u00e1\u017ene, \u017ee sa nikto nep\u00fdtal na ich n\u00e1zor. A teraz, ke\u010f u\u017e nem\u00f4\u017eu poda\u0165 riadny v\u00fdkon, pripadaj\u00fa si bezcenn\u00ed&#8230;<br \/>\nAj mlad\u00ed \u013eudia ve\u013emi \u010dasto pochybuj\u00fa o svojej hodnote. Aj oni trpia t\u00fdm, \u017ee ich neber\u00fa v\u00e1\u017ene, ob\u00e1vaj\u00fa sa, \u017ee nie s\u00fa dostato\u010dne nad vecou. Vad\u00ed im, ke\u010f sa zap\u00fdria u\u017e na za\u010diatku rozhovoru na nepr\u00edjemn\u00fa t\u00e9mu. A hlavne sa boja, \u017ee sn\u00e1\u010f ani nie s\u00fa hodn\u00ed l\u00e1sky. Mlad\u00ed mu\u017ei sa c\u00edtia v spolo\u010dnosti \u017eien neisto, lebo sa boja, \u017ee ich nebud\u00fa akceptova\u0165, a ke\u010f s\u00fa v spolo\u010dnosti p\u00e1rikov, tak sa zase pova\u017euj\u00fa za menejcenn\u00fdch, preto\u017ee oni s\u00fa e\u0161te sami&#8230; Diev\u010dat\u00e1 zase maj\u00fa strach, \u017ee ich mu\u017ei ber\u00fa na \u013eahk\u00fa v\u00e1hu alebo zosmie\u0161\u0148uj\u00fa, lebo nespl\u0148aj\u00fa ide\u00e1l kr\u00e1sy. A tak vynalo\u017eia v\u0161etku energiu na to, aby vyzerali tak, ak to \u2013 pod\u013ea ich n\u00e1zoru \u2013 mu\u017ei o\u010dak\u00e1vaj\u00fa&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img src=\"img\/clanky\/skola5.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/p>\n<p>Av\u0161ak aj pocity bezmocnosti s\u00fa st\u00e1le \u010dastej\u0161iou t\u00e9mou duchovn\u00fdch rozhovorov. Mlad\u00fd mu\u017e sa c\u00edti neschopn\u00fd rozhodn\u00fa\u0165 o svojej bud\u00facnosti. \u010eal\u0161\u00ed pre\u017e\u00edva bezmocnos\u0165 v boji so sebou sam\u00fdm \u2013 jednoducho, nedok\u00e1\u017ee sa pohn\u00fa\u0165 z miesta. Opakovane trp\u00ed vlastn\u00fdm zlyhan\u00edm a nevie to zmeni\u0165. Mlad\u00e9 \u017eeny trpia t\u00fdm, \u017ee nezvl\u00e1daj\u00fa svoje probl\u00e9my s jedlom a svojou v\u00e1hou alebo v\u00fdzorom. Mlad\u00ed mu\u017ei sa c\u00edtia neschopn\u00ed ovl\u00e1da\u0165 svoju sexualitu pod\u013ea svojich predst\u00e1v a ide\u00e1lov. Alebo ich roz\u010du\u013euje to, ako sa neust\u00e1le zosmie\u0161\u0148uj\u00fa, ke\u010f s\u00fa pred cudz\u00edmi neist\u00ed&#8230;<br \/>\nPr\u00ed\u010diny pocitov bezmocnosti spo\u010d\u00edvaj\u00fa \u010dasto vo vonkajj\u0161\u00edch pomeroch, mo\u017eno aj v situ\u00e1cii na trhu pr\u00e1ce alebo v spolo\u010denskom a politickom dian\u00ed. Lebo ten, kto po dokon\u010den\u00ed svojho \u0161t\u00fadia nap\u00edsal 40 \u2013 50 \u017eiadost\u00ed o pr\u00e1cu bez ak\u00e9hoko\u013evek v\u00fdsledku, sa m\u00f4\u017ee c\u00edti\u0165 vzh\u013eadom na svoju bud\u00facnos\u0165 naozaj bezmocn\u00fd a frustrovan\u00fd. Zd\u00e1 sa mu, \u017ee nech urob\u00ed \u010doko\u013evek, ni\u010d nevedie k cie\u013eu. A tak rezignuje, preto\u017ee si mysl\u00ed, \u017ee proti takejto krutej realite nem\u00f4\u017ee bojova\u0165, \u017ee sa to ani ned\u00e1&#8230; Podobne ten, kto sa odmali\u010dka zauj\u00edmal a zasadzoval o ochranu \u017eivotn\u00e9ho prostredia, rezignuje s pocitom, \u017ee to v\u00f4bec nem\u00e1 zmysel, preto\u017ee spolo\u010dnos\u0165 ni\u010d\u00ed pr\u00edrodu st\u00e1le viac a viac&#8230; \u010eal\u0161\u00ed sa c\u00edti neschopn\u00fd zachr\u00e1ni\u0165 rozpadaj\u00face sa man\u017eelstvo alebo nie\u010do zmeni\u0165 v zamotanom vz\u0165ahu&#8230; Rodi\u010dia sa c\u00edtia bezmocn\u00ed vo\u010di svojim dospel\u00fdm de\u0165om, ke\u010f sa vyber\u00fa po celkom inej ceste, ako si oni predstavovali. Nenach\u00e1dzaj\u00fa u\u017e k nim pr\u00edstup&#8230; Star\u00ed aj mlad\u00ed sa c\u00edtia bezmocn\u00ed vo\u010di svetu, v ktorom sa \u0161liape po v\u0161etk\u00fdch hodnot\u00e1ch, a ktor\u00fd je ur\u010dovan\u00fd in\u00fdmi mocn\u00fdmi a anonymn\u00fdmi skupinami, ktor\u00e9 nemo\u017eno postihn\u00fa\u0165&#8230;<br \/>\nMnoh\u00e9 pocity bezmocnosti pramenia u\u017e z detstva \u2013 tu sa die\u0165a c\u00edtilo bezmocn\u00e9 vo svojej snahe zmierni\u0165 nap\u00e4tia medzi rodi\u010dmi a urovna\u0165 h\u00e1dky, inde deti pre\u017e\u00edvali bezmocn\u00fd hnev, ke\u010f boli nespravodlivo potrestan\u00e9&#8230; Dnes pre\u017e\u00edvaj\u00fa rovnak\u00fa bezmocnos\u0165 pri jednan\u00ed s nadriaden\u00fdmi \u010di in\u00fdmi autoritami, pri konfliktn\u00fdch situ\u00e1ci\u00e1ch vo vz\u0165ahoch, v rodine, v spolo\u010denstve, vo firme&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Neistota, strach pred druh\u00fdmi a pocit bezmocnosti vo\u010di svetu s\u00fa dnes najroz\u0161\u00edrenej\u0161ie probl\u00e9my \u013eud\u00ed vo v\u0161etk\u00fdch vekov\u00fdch skupin\u00e1ch. D\u00e1 sa z\u00edska\u0165 moc nad touto bezmocnos\u0165ou? Pon\u00fakame v\u00e1m nieko\u013eko my\u0161lienok, ako budova\u0165 vlastn\u00fa hodnotu a ako kon\u0161trukt\u00edvne zaobch\u00e1dza\u0165 s pocitmi bezmocnosti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1896"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1896"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1896\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2071,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1896\/revisions\/2071"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1896"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1896"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/btm.sk\/WP\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1896"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}